I remember when I was newly married with three small boys, I was often frustrated when my husband didn’t do the things that I thought would really help me.  I expected a mind reader.  Guess what?  None of us, no matter how well we communicate, can read our partner’s minds.  One partner often has the stance “if he/she really loved me he’d know what I want”.  Well, if you’re in sync, and you have great communication that may happen more often, but it really isn’t fair.  As women or men we take BACK our power when we ask for what we need.  Yes, we empower ourselves and we strengthen our partnerships.  Anger destroys trust, goodwill and any strengthening.  You might feel vindicated, but it gets you only momentary relief.  And the relationship worsens.  Ask yourself “what do I want here?” Here’s a specific example of what I mean:  (insert any common request/need into the parenthesis) “It would really help me tonight if you’d (give the kids their baths, read bedtime stories, take Jimmy to soccer).  …