All posts tagged: happiness

We compare our insides to other people’s Facebooks…

One of my favorite quotes is attributed to many. I think this wisdom is timeless. “We compare our insides to other people’s outsides”.   Spot on. And that is never more true in the era of social media, where sometimes the most unhappy people can convince themselves and others that they are happy, successful and without a care in the world.  We’ve all seen it.  Just look on Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter, Vine, Instagram… take your pick! …here’s the thing to remember.  They are only showing you what THEY want you to see. So don’t view their posts as their life. They aren’t going to write “came home, had three drinks, drove carpool, stopped at Dairy Queen for a blizzard before dinner, and slapped my husband when he came home late because I know he’s seeing someone”. STOP COMPARING. Because it’s like comparing apples to a screwdriver — not even remotely related! You are comparing your inner thoughts, often full of self doubt, questions, and insecurity (read = NORMAL) to someone else’s made up and carefully crafted …

2016 – The year to NOT…

It’s January 1st, and for many of us the new year heralds the all too familiar “this year I’m going to (insert self critical phrase here — eg; get thinner, work out harder, ramp up my career or be a better parent)…”  STOP. Just STOP. And make this year different. Make 2016 the year you become kind to yourself.  That doesn’t mean you can’t improve your life, or strive to be a better version of your present self. Go for it! But don’t base your changes on self-criticism– because that is a guarantee of failure. Over 90% of NY resolutions fail. The math is not on your side! Besides cutting yourself some slack, make your goals realistic.  It’s fairly simple if you use the concept of “baby steps”. Pick one goal related to your desired change — I want to lose weight so I will stop drinking soda of all kinds and replace it with water this week. Next week I’ll take another small step. I want to be a better parent, so instead of …

30 Things to Stop Doing… to yourself.

I don’t do this very often, but this is worth sharing: http://1-ps.googleusercontent.com/x/www.bspcn.com/www.marcandangel.com/images/500x333x30-stop-doing-to-yourself.jpg.pagespeed.ic.M_z_eWtL6r.jpg (photo by Rob Brucker) Reblogged:  http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/11/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/ Written by marcandangel Worth printing, so I’ve made a printable copy, but please give the above website your traffic! Printable Copy   Thank you to my friend Maria for sending this on to me.